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I'm a 29 year old self identifying hippie and amateur photographer. I've been married since Summer 2006, and we started trying to get pregnant the summer of 2007, I have 2 cats and a dog, and I work as a secretary in a prison. This blog is about my battle with infertility and life, love, faith and happiness in the face of infertility. All pictures in the collage and those that I post in my entries were taken by me, unless otherwise stated (or if they are of me of course). Come visit my photography page to see more of my work here: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Hannah-Love-Chandlers-Photography/282550090053

Friday, June 15, 2012

Lessons from Polly the Bird

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Outside the window at my office at work there are some bars, and lots of birds are always coming over to perch on those bars. One little brown bird is a chatty fella, he’s always singing and chirping and tweet-tweeting. There are lots of birds that visit us during the day, but only one that is rather distinctive. This little black bird visits us every day, and she is distinctive because she has only one leg. She flies up, perches on her one leg, and cleans herself and preens and ruffles her feathers. I don’t know what happened to her leg, but she doesn’t seem to let it get her down. 
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            God says that He takes care of the birds in the field. “Aren't five sparrows sold for two pennies? But God does not forget even one of them." Luke 12:6 Where was God when little Polly lost her leg? Did this feathered flier slip beneath the radar? Was she forgotten? Did this bird just not want her leg bad enough, or did she displease God by not singing prettily enough? Or… did God give Polly even more personal attention than usual? Maybe a cat had her, or a cruel person was planning on torturing her, and God got her away with one leg and her life. Do you think Polly would rather have died, then to fly away with one leg? Do you think she is mad at God because He didn’t make sure that she survived with both legs?
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            What if God is doing the same for you? Satan is real. He wants to hurt you, to shake your faith and to pull you away from God. And he will attempt to do just that in any way he knows how. What if He knows that going through childbirth would kill you, or that Satan will cause an illness to fall on your future child, and the child will die a painful death at a young age? Maybe God knows that for you and your husband, that loss would be worse than never having a child in the first place, and that that loss may cause you or your husband to lose your faith. Is having a child for a few years worth your child’s death or your death and you and your husband’s eternal life?
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            Maybe nothing that bad is going to happen, and the worst Satan is doing to you is striking you with infertility, and making you wait what seems like an unbearable time for your miracle, in hopes that the wait will be enough to cause you to lose your faith in God.
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Have you already lost your faith in God due to infertility or other occurrences? Are you blaming God for your problems? Have you stopped praying? If you have, Satan has won. Infertility has won. If you died tomorrow are you certain that you are in a place in your relationship with God that you will end up in Heaven? Luckily, there is hope: “This I recall to mind, therefore I have hope. The LORD’s lovingkindness indeed never ceases, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; Great is your faithfulness.” –Lamentations 3:21-22. Every morning His compassions are new. Did you yell at God yesterday? Were you so angry at the arrival of your period or the news of another unwanted baby that you were blaming Him? This morning His compassions are new. He doesn’t get tired of you coming to Him and asking forgiveness, not every day, not even ever hour, or every 10 minutes. He doesn’t get tired of you coming to Him and asking for what you long for either. Call on Him all the time and tell Him what you want. Tell Him how much you want a baby and how much you will love a baby. 
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Wednesday, June 6, 2012


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Some people battle infertility and get to make their victory lap holding a baby they gave birth to. Some do their victory dance holding the baby they adopted, or the hand of their foster child. But what if you never become a mommy? Infertility prevailed; you never got your baby. Do you get a victory dance? Or did you lose? God wants good things for us. He plans for us to have hope: Jeremiah 29:11 I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord. They are plans for peace and not disaster, plans to give you a future filled with hope.
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Maybe you get to make your victory lap with peace in your heart, hopefully holding the hand of your loving husband. Because real peace, in your current circumstances, without getting everything you prayed for is a reward. After all, what are we really asking for when we ask for a baby? We want a baby to cuddle and love and raise. The end result? We want to be happy. We want to stop yearning each day for something that seems to come so easy to everybody else. One way to make that happen is by having a baby. But even having a baby is no guarantee, because what if you want to have a second child and now have to battle secondary infertility? People suffering from secondary infertility say it is just as horrible as when they are trying for their first. The only surefire way to accomplish the cessation of the heart wrenching yearning is by God giving us peace. Jesus says He will give us peace.  Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to youJohn 14:27
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We know that God has our best interests at heart. He cares about our happiness. He tells us not to be discouraged. “The LORD Himself goes before you and will be with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8. We know that He knows what He is doing: “He is the Rock, His work is perfect, for all His ways are justice, a God of truth and without injustice, Righteous and upright is He.” Deuteronomy 32:4. So how to we face each day knowing we may never be a mommy? “This I call to mind, therefore I have hope. The LORD’s loving-kindness indeed never ceases, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:21-22
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God doesn’t intend for you to be miserable your whole life. He promises that He hears you when you pray: “In those days when you pray, I will listen” Jeremiah 29:12. But does that mean He is going to give you every desire of your heart? Loving God wouldn’t be free will if everybody that loved Him always had good things happen to them. Generally we don’t go to work because we love our employer; we go to work because they pay us. God doesn’t pay us for our love by answering our every prayer exactly to our liking. But He does promise us peace. He promises that He loves us. He promises that we will have eternal life with Him in heaven. And all you have to do is love Him. Accept that He is your Savior and repent your sins, and diligently seek Him. We know that God rewards those who seek him “He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.” Hebrews 11:6 Maybe your reward will be lasting peace.

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